Attention seeker, drama queen, pity party- yep I’ve been referred to as all of them. If you’ve ever read a social media post of mine you might think the same thing, so let me break it down for you.
Chronic illnesses suck!!! They suck the life out of me! They suck the strength, the happiness, the peace, the joy of living right out of me!!!
Yes, I get depressed! Really depressed!!! I wake up every single day to pain most people would go to the ER over, I wake up to handfuls of medications that keep me alive and help to manage symptoms, I wake everyday to limited mobility, I wake every day to limited cognitive functions, I wake everyday knowing that I will not ever get better! I wake everyday knowing that I will feel like this every day for the rest of my life!!! That is a HEAVY weight to pack around, sometimes I get tired of packing it, sometimes I want to throw it down, be done! Do you know what saves me?
Kind words from someone! That is what saves me! Understanding, kindness, a moment of time- is what saves me– not judgemental, accusational, demeaning or belittling remarks!
My social media posts look like a roller coaster of emotion, yes I know that, but did you know I cannot help it? Do you think I like to feel the way I feel when I post those negative posts? I don’t. Sometimes those posts are venting, just blowing steam. But sometimes those posts are a cry for help! How hard would it be to leave a little comment? “(Hugs)” or “💜” or something more engaging “Hey I see your having a rough day, hope it gets better.” But instead, most people judge and scroll right past!
What happens if one day you are in my shoes, would you want someone to care then? Would you want someone to just scroll by like you don’t matter? Believe me, people never think they will be in this position- we don’t choose it!
To those who do stop, take the time, and share some kindness and compassion; we thank you, with all of our hearts! You may never know the extent of how deeply your kindness touched us! You may have saved our life! You many not ever know you saved our life, because to you, being kind is the right thing to do and it didn’t take much effort on your part- but to me it meant the world, to my family it meant my life! Thank you!
During my dark day the other day, a conversation that started about cake is what saved me! Cake! I had posted in a group and on my personal page and the conversation that followed is what kept me hanging on. Cake!
Next time you see someone’s “dramatic” “attention seeking” “pity party” post, respond with some kindness, compassion, maybe even patience because you never know what that post is really crying out for.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. And thank you for talking about cake! 🎂